Living in our world today, creating relationships among different people of different places is as easy as 1-2-3 if you decided to try. Long distance and culture differences are inconsequential in meeting people and making new friends.
The advent of technology has made sure of that. The world is literally at your fingertips. However, creating relationship and staying in one is two different things. Relationships, be it filial, platonic, or romantic have always been a complicated business.
It involves reading behaviors, understanding feelings, and compromising situations. Being insensitive to these things are detrimental to a relationship especially if the actions are covert. One behavior that people are actually familiar of, but don’t recognize in an actual relationship is the passive-aggressive behavior.
Passive-aggressive is defined as an indirect rebellion against someone through non-compliance to demands or request in covert form such as pretending to forget about it. It also includes small changes in behavior, being sarcastic, procrastination, and sulking.
However, people acting this way are not always passive-aggressive. It could be only called as passive-aggressive if the behavior is repetitive. It is important that this behavior should be stopped before it progresses into something that eats away trust and leave both parties suffering. Here are some advices to help put a stop in this destructive behavior.
One should be sensitive in other party’s feelings and behavior. Sometimes, passive-aggressive people looks well-meaning and always smiling, but are really hiding resentment; hence the term itself. What you should do is look for the little changes.
Do they always make excuses in your requests? Do they deliberately put off works that needs to be done to annoy you? Recognize the signs. Once you know on what’s going on, you can point it out but don’t say that they are being passive-aggressive.
Just tell them about their behavioral changes and ask if there is a problem. More often, they would know it but don’t force them into opening up as will likely result in a huge fight. Stop the pattern. If they are acting like that don’t mean you have, too.
This will just force the knife deeper between your relationships and worsen the situation. Talk about the issue. If they don’t have any intention of changing the current situation, take the initiative.
It is not easy and should be tread carefully, but prolonging the agony will not make it easier. In fact, the silent war will build-up into deeper resentment.
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