Certain people in our lives will always try to get you to do things through coaxing and manipulation, and you may not even be mindful of it if they are already controlling you.
You have to let these people realize that you as a human being also need to be treated well. It always boils down on you if you are giving the indication that the manipulation is acceptable to you.
You first have to figure out who these people are and why they are doing what they do. An example might be a close relative who worked across the miles, continuously sought greener pastures and indulged herself to too much work torture just to give you a decent financial sustenance in all the days of your life.
The manipulation comes in when that person unceasingly clings on to the fact that she already shelled out too much for you and for your future, and your dependence on her will be her controlling weapon towards you.
Having that scenario, are you giving off indications that what they are doing is bearable because you tolerate their actions? Your retort to people is what give them the understanding of what you will or will not consent them to do.
Dealing with cunning people can be complicated as it might be someone who you really care about and you don’t really want them to get out of your life.
When someone is forcing you to do something you don’t want to do, or consistently plague you and emotionally pound you with him stinging words, you need to tell him what he is doing.
Dealing with debt of gratitude and showing respect is quite different from embracing all insults and manipulation from the person, unless you’re really confined with it because of your dependency.
Patterns develop in your dealings with people, but you will need to be firm in changing the way things are, how you react and what kind of treatment you want people to give you.
You can only steer your own wheel but you cannot change someone else. They will change only if they want to but you do not have to endure something that makes you uncomfortable and helpless.
If after you have antagonized the person and how they act with you still haven’t changed, then you have to choose what you are able to endure and this is very reliant on your connection with the person.
Whether they are a close fragment of your life or an off-the-cuff acquaintance, you will react inversely. If they are not strongly connected to you, you might just want to detach yourself from them, but if they are family, a parent or your spouse it is tougher for you to just remove them out of your life.
Still you are in control of whether you allow yourself to remain being manipulated or not. You just have to stop reacting in the same likely manner when they try to control you.
Life can be so cruel most of the time, but it is always our last say whether we just let things linger as they are, spend more days of misery, or change our life for the better by detaching from manipulative people.
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