Did you know that besides the fear of death and public speaking, one of the biggest fears people is the fear of rejection? This fear of rejection is that we all want to be popular with people around us.
“Everyone wants to be loved, but nobody loves everyone.” Fear of rejection and criticism sometimes comes from your childhood. If you have been a victim of love “conditional”, you may suffer from this fear.
If you obey and doing what is expected of you, your parents, educators and other adults were willing to love you, otherwise. As adults, you are probably always looking for approval and recognition of others. Not surprising that some of you do anything to get love and are willing to put aside their dreams and convictions.
Want to conquer this fear of rejection? So here are ten quick tips that can help you:
1. Improve your self-esteem by making a list of your 10 most recent achievements. Your trust is the best shield to protect you from criticism and rejection;
2. Take each criticism as an opportunity to improve. Instead negatively perceive criticism and being angry against the person who emits, thank them by explaining to you that this is an important source of information in your continuous improvement process your personal and professional development. This is not what people say or think inconvenient, but rather the interpretation made of it;
3. Do not give any importance to those who criticize you and who do not know it. The history of tea (I can send it to those who have not received) precisely reflects this. Do not give the value as critical people you respect;
4. Always ask yourself if the criticism is constructive that you address. If it is, take a retrospect, a mea culpa is applicable, correct and continue shooting. If not, move away as quickly as possible of the person who gave you this comment and give any value to his words. Avoid negative people and flee;
5. Learn to be proud of you and you praise. Do not wait until after the other to do so. Learn how to “negotiate” the opinion others have of you. Do you enjoy your fair value;
6. Be happy to be criticized because it’s proof that you are doing something important.
7. Tell yourself that no one escapes criticism, not even the Pope. Yet see what he does. Notice that the monuments are usually erected in memory of people who have been often criticized and not the memory of the people who criticize;
8. Tell yourself that people who criticize others often have little confidence in themselves and they take advantage of this momentary able to enhance their value by lowering others. Do not fall into the trap;
9. Do not compare yourself to others, compare yourself to yourself. You are solely responsible for your success; others should have little influence on your journey and that is your self-esteem that can propel you to unimaginable heights;
10. Cease to do to you what others think or say about you. Assume fully what you are doing. Unless you are really jealous or impressed, others probably do not think of you because they are too busy thinking about themselves!
2. Take each criticism as an opportunity to improve. Instead negatively perceive criticism and being angry against the person who emits, thank them by explaining to you that this is an important source of information in your continuous improvement process your personal and professional development. This is not what people say or think inconvenient, but rather the interpretation made of it;
3. Do not give any importance to those who criticize you and who do not know it. The history of tea (I can send it to those who have not received) precisely reflects this. Do not give the value as critical people you respect;
4. Always ask yourself if the criticism is constructive that you address. If it is, take a retrospect, a mea culpa is applicable, correct and continue shooting. If not, move away as quickly as possible of the person who gave you this comment and give any value to his words. Avoid negative people and flee;
5. Learn to be proud of you and you praise. Do not wait until after the other to do so. Learn how to “negotiate” the opinion others have of you. Do you enjoy your fair value;
6. Be happy to be criticized because it’s proof that you are doing something important.
7. Tell yourself that no one escapes criticism, not even the Pope. Yet see what he does. Notice that the monuments are usually erected in memory of people who have been often criticized and not the memory of the people who criticize;
8. Tell yourself that people who criticize others often have little confidence in themselves and they take advantage of this momentary able to enhance their value by lowering others. Do not fall into the trap;
9. Do not compare yourself to others, compare yourself to yourself. You are solely responsible for your success; others should have little influence on your journey and that is your self-esteem that can propel you to unimaginable heights;
10. Cease to do to you what others think or say about you. Assume fully what you are doing. Unless you are really jealous or impressed, others probably do not think of you because they are too busy thinking about themselves!
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