First impression is a tricky part in socializing. In a simple introduction of exchanging names, first impressions can happen in a space of a few seconds. The body language, outer appearance and manner of speaking speaks largely about oneself and a hitch in any of these can transform you from a dapper gentleman to a boy who just recently stepped out of the shelter of basic education. However, few times do not permit the creation of positive first impression and if you’re a born klutz, chances are this is the cause of your worry lines.
While the conventional wisdom states there is no second chances in making the right first impression, studies made supports there is – one called “phase two” of first impression by Heidi Grant, Ph.D. (Motivation Science Center at the Columbia University Business School Director).
Making the right first impression is crucial, especially if you’re meeting a potential client or you’re in for a job interview. The perceiver, in one look, will have their neurons firing up in an automatic drive (mostly) to make an assessment of you. This is the initial or the first phase in his or her evaluation. It is largely dependent on stereotypes and empirical cues (e.g., physical appearance, body language and other external factors) which fill up the blanks of who you are.
Showing up on any kinds of meeting late will already give a bad idea of what kind of person you are and this is not to be judgmental. Instead, it is a largely automatic response of the brain. This is an example of conscious doing of making a bad first impression. On the flip side of the coin, there are times we unwittingly make ourselves unfavorable. Staying quiet in a meeting will can project many ideas on the perceiver and some would think of you as a noncommittal person.
To make up for the first bad impression, you have to make them see you in a new light. Only few are given the chance and be informed the third is non existent. The second phase of making a good impression relies on deeper observation and a pool of data of the possible reasons of your behavior, which will then possibly reverse the bad impression the perceiver has on you.
Reversing the bad impression on your part requires a lot of work from you. Showing up on the dot once will not do the trick, but only a continuous demonstration of good behavior will earn you a spot on their good books. Inciting thoughtful ideas will also remove their notion of you being noncommittal.
Another way to reverse their bad judgment is by letting them learn crucial information about your behavior. You are thinking deeply, which is why you are quiet or you helped an old lady on the way.
This may raise some eyebrows yet you know you are on neutral ground and from there, you can work your way into their good graces.
While there is a second chance, it is still much preferable to make the first best. It will write you lots of recommendations.
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